Your private behavior conflicts with your public persona.
Your personal life begins to interfere with your professional responsibilities—or your professional responsibilities interfere with your personal life.
Your work is adversely affecting your marriage, family and other relationships—or your marriage, family and other relationships are adversely affecting your work.
Your outward success cannot compensate for an inward sense of inadequacy and insecurity.
Your coping mechanisms—work, relationships, alcohol, sex, food, religion, gambling, recreation, exercise…no longer bring relief to you, but instead are becoming obsessive, compulsive insatiable needs.
Your feelings of a spiritual void cannot be altered through changing circumstances, places, persons or things in your life.
You believe if you can just change that circumstance, person, place or thing you will be happy and find inner peace.
Your hidden feelings of the past--anger, resentment, fear, shame, guilt, emptiness, despair, hopelessness, abandonment, betrayal, rejection… continue to sabotage positive thinking and doing in the present.
You promised to never do it again—and you just did it again.
You really believe you are a bad, unworthy person; your needs are never going to be met if you have to depend on others—no one is able to meet your personal expectations and needs; no one understands you; no one really cares about you; no one would accept you if they really knew you.
You feel depressed, dis-eased, alone and hopeless.
You yearn for intimacy, but you’re afraid to be vulnerable.
Your secrets are dominating your life.
You hear yourself telling yet another lie which you almost believe yourself.
You can’t shut off your feelings.
You feel “insane”—you keep trying the same thing over and over again, but expecting different results.
You’re afraid to feel—you fear you could die from feeling your feelings.
You can’t feel; you can’t express your feelings.
You feel the need to control and it’s not working: the more you attempt to control others the more out of control you become.
You feel controlled and the need to be responsible for everyone else and it’s not working: the more you submit to the control of others the more resentful you become.